Not getting along with a parent can be very painful emotionally. Even after you have grown into a mature one and found your own life, there is always a part that feels haunted by the bad relationship you have with one or both of your parents. I really envy those kids whose parents are open-minded with the kind of generation we have right now. Some parents are old-fashioned one- strict and the ego is always there that they are the parents then they are the rules.
When one does not feel fully accepted, love, understood or respected by a parent, there is an emptiness living inside you and while you may be able to move on with your life and find happiness, it is always preferred to have a close and healthy bond with your parents. Unfortunately, that does not happened into mine. Maybe I was bound to have an old-fashioned parents at all. So how can you find peace when you don't get along with a parent?How can you save a kind of relationship if a parent is a close minded person?And still stands being a parent and you are just his/her child?
Well, before you react see first where the problem begun. Some starts when you were born. If you are not getting along with your parents, it may help you feel better knowing that it is not your fault since you were just an infant that time. If it start from an early age when you as a child have no responsibility and what so ever, then most likely parents were not fit or ready to be a parent.
In general, a good and healthy relationship and being a parent is one that -
1. Accepts the responsibility to be a parent. Never complains, there are a lot of parents that keeps on complaining. We, kids should know that and observed that as well.
2. Has the financial means to support a family- Obviously, this is prerequisite. Never dream to have a family if you can't support them at all. This will lead to bad relationship if you are not sophisticated enough in supporting your family.
3.Be fair enough. Fair enough with you children. Never have a special attention towards your elder/youngest one than your other children.
4. Has parenting knowledge though no one is an expert in this kind of degree of raising children and is a never ending learning experience yet a parent can achieve this kind of education if he/she has the passion to become a parent, open-minded in all aspects and the humbleness of being a parent.
5. Has a physical, emotional, and mental balance to engage with their children.
All of these factors can make a difference in our world today and with our new generation. In having a better understanding of their children, they can create proper tactics to educate a child and guide them lovingly in smooth manner and not in a painful one.
Take note that it is no one's fault to have differences. A child and parents must have differences to some degree but children should know how to understand and parents should always know how to accept and handle these differences. Remember to do your best and that there is a side you are not responsible for. Consider all aspects- use your heart along with your intellectuality. Let your mind and heart go as one. In this way, you can understand your children and the same goes with your kids.
Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. It is the parents big role on how they will mold their children. They are the main factor in one's child growth.
To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while. Your children need your presence more than your presents.If you must hold yourself up to your children as an object lesson, hold yourself up as a warning and not as an example.
It is not only children who grow, parents do too. As much as you watch to see your children do with their lives, they are watching you as their parents on what you do with yours. You can't tell your children to reach for the sun. All you can do is reach for it, yourself.
When one does not feel fully accepted, love, understood or respected by a parent, there is an emptiness living inside you and while you may be able to move on with your life and find happiness, it is always preferred to have a close and healthy bond with your parents. Unfortunately, that does not happened into mine. Maybe I was bound to have an old-fashioned parents at all. So how can you find peace when you don't get along with a parent?How can you save a kind of relationship if a parent is a close minded person?And still stands being a parent and you are just his/her child?
Well, before you react see first where the problem begun. Some starts when you were born. If you are not getting along with your parents, it may help you feel better knowing that it is not your fault since you were just an infant that time. If it start from an early age when you as a child have no responsibility and what so ever, then most likely parents were not fit or ready to be a parent.
In general, a good and healthy relationship and being a parent is one that -
2. Has the financial means to support a family- Obviously, this is prerequisite. Never dream to have a family if you can't support them at all. This will lead to bad relationship if you are not sophisticated enough in supporting your family.
3.Be fair enough. Fair enough with you children. Never have a special attention towards your elder/youngest one than your other children.
4. Has parenting knowledge though no one is an expert in this kind of degree of raising children and is a never ending learning experience yet a parent can achieve this kind of education if he/she has the passion to become a parent, open-minded in all aspects and the humbleness of being a parent.
5. Has a physical, emotional, and mental balance to engage with their children.
All of these factors can make a difference in our world today and with our new generation. In having a better understanding of their children, they can create proper tactics to educate a child and guide them lovingly in smooth manner and not in a painful one.
Take note that it is no one's fault to have differences. A child and parents must have differences to some degree but children should know how to understand and parents should always know how to accept and handle these differences. Remember to do your best and that there is a side you are not responsible for. Consider all aspects- use your heart along with your intellectuality. Let your mind and heart go as one. In this way, you can understand your children and the same goes with your kids.
Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. It is the parents big role on how they will mold their children. They are the main factor in one's child growth.
To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while. Your children need your presence more than your presents.If you must hold yourself up to your children as an object lesson, hold yourself up as a warning and not as an example.
It is not only children who grow, parents do too. As much as you watch to see your children do with their lives, they are watching you as their parents on what you do with yours. You can't tell your children to reach for the sun. All you can do is reach for it, yourself.
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