THE ART OF IGNORING

I was busy lately preparing for the coming holidays and this yuletide season and from those busy days and the activities, I came across in some areas where we sometimes have to listen and ignore possible humors about every aspects of ourselves where people desires to destroy us.

I know it's a pretty straightforward way of having a blog for ignoring people, humors/talk, or feedback from other people - but this is for a purpose.

Focus is your framework towards reality. It is the fluid that makes something move, change and look alive. Without this focus, you'll get out of track. They might be but they aren't there for you, for your reality. Focus creates everything that surrounds you and is a subtle yet incredibly important shift form of your standard reality approaches.

Have you tried to ask yourself and think how reality works and happen within you? Wherein fact, reality is  just hanging there, independent of you and will just continue to be next to you.

If you feel like you already have the grasp of reality and cant influence it, then just think that everything in your life is the result of a pre-programmed set of events. There is already a plan and there's no way to resist but to follow to that plan. But you need to react like you have no power about it. Grab the responsibility like on the so called "destiny" or "faith".

It is the only way to face a miserable journey in life and to delude yourself from it. Most people think like this, changing their mindset that it must be "real", however, you don't need to follow them, like a thousand people saying that they can't climb a mountain, then you would just go with the flow and will stop you of climbing that mountain.

What I am trying to say is that you don't have to go where the water leads you. You always have a choice on whether you grab that branch against the water flow or simply you can always change reality. Not only to change but to create as well whatever you decide to do then try to start ignoring.

Shifting focus is difficult. Making your focus follow desires and maintaining all your energy in that blissful state requires a lot of practice and patience. It can be a draining activity, especially in the beginning.

This is true, especially the time you'll begin to see those things you have created- your company, relationships, friendship, value, potential and so forth. But on the other hand, with those things creaeted- you'll get to encounter mistakes, boredom, sadness, pain or even anger. This is the result of every focus we have.

I was overwhelmed experiencing this kind of reality, knowing I was the only person responsible for everything I put into focus. Not knowing what to do next, but then understand how things works. Trying to escape from the circle wasn't just possible anymore. I have to deal with all the good and all the bad things I've created.

And that is when I started to ignore things. The second big discovery was that focus uses a constant flow of energy. If you have focus on negative things, then you'll have to get some energy from things you do want to happen. Then this energy needs to be constant, and your choice where to put it. Then you'll be successful in ignoring it. Sometimes you cant manifest it when your focus energy is weak because you put your focus on things that you don't want. Simple yet powerful.

Then you'll start to develop another strategy which is your ignorance skills. Learning ignorance is not to tackle about illiteracy or being dull but about shifting focus on what you want and what you dont want.

The first way is to be firm and don't feel guilt. They say silence in a court is guilty, but I say being silence is to ignore things and talking is just their defense mechanism for them to cover themselves and feel that they are not guilty but they do. 

It is easy to feel guilt when not doing anything, or skipping something. This is rooted in the early childhood, where all of us were drilled in to something called discipline.

Well, stop it. Don't feel guilt when you're skipping TV tonight, or  skip a dinner with your teammate, nor with your family. Never feel the guilt of rejecting friends- if they aren't worth of it, reject potential partners if you don't like them. 

It is never been good to be harsh, be as polite as you can or be firm but take courage of taking down things you don't want, because you'll take energy from things you really want to do making it impossible to happen.

Asses your goals often and don't follow a topic till the end. Always remember that goals are changing. Today and the next day would always be different but there are excemptions on routines, that is normal. Just asses your goals regularly for you to be on track. Organize your life to a big step forward. The moment you start to know your goals, your focus will lean towards that and shift from your frozen patterns then implement an organizational methodology but don't just follow an issue at the very end.

You got caught in something but half way of it you realize you don't like it anymore. It could be a project, conversation, or any activity. So, just stop. The menace of guilt will strike you but take courage of stopping it. 

It doesn't matter, it's okay to lose interest on some activities when doing them. Keeping your sight on those things is not okay. Decide if you like it or not and then move on. There are things you'll lose ends when it come to things you really like but the only way to get over it is to ignore and to take courage.