Confidence

Are you afraid? or hesitating? What's holding you back?    Is it because you care of what people say about you? Are you terrified that they'll find out something about you?

What is the truth? The truth is you're afraid that people will discover that you're fallible and then they'll judge you!

We'll here's a fact. We're all fallible - in a matter of place, time and event. We all commit mistakes, no one is perfect neither but so what, who really cares what other people may think? It's so much more important to care about what you think of yourself.

How you care about yourself or how you foresee yourself affects the way you act and the way you move is a major aspect in the way other people perceive you (not that we care!).

My Happy Ending

I am a bit busy this days, so here's a story for everyone to read for this week. Enjoy reading.

Today is my first day at school in Burbank, Illinois. I miss my friends back in Carolina, but the people at this school seem nice. Then again, a lot of people seem nice before you meet them. I met this boy today and his name is Jake. He’s really cute and kind. He walked me to all my classes, even the ones on the opposite end of the school from where he was supposed to be.

After that day, he missed a week of school.
When he got back, he walked me to my classes again. I told him how much I really appreciated it. He was the only one who even tried to befriend me. After a week of walking me to my classes, Jake finally asked me out. I am a Christian and only hang around fellow Christians who are people that will be saved by God. Hence, I asked him if he’s Christian and luckily, he said yes.
“How long have you been a Christian?”
“A few years…” He replied slowly.
That was when he changed the subject.
The date was amazing and everything went right.
He continued to walk me to my classes everyday for months. We went out together more than twice every week. We held hands but there was nothing more. He knew that, for me, even kissing a guy is a big step and I need to be really serious with a guy before we can take that step.
We were together for two years when he came up to me with his hands behind his back.

The Missing Rib

A girl in love asked her boyfriend.

Girl: Tell me. Who do you love most in this world?

Boy: You, of course!

Girl: In your heart, what am I to you?

The boy thought for a moment and looked intently in her eyes and said, "You are my rib. It was said that God saw that Adam was lonely. Hence, when Adam was sleeping, God took one of his rib and created Eve. Ever since then, every man has been searching for his missing rib. It is said that only when you find the woman of your life then you'll no longer feel the lingering ache in your heart."

The girl was extremely touched at his reply. Before long, there were married. After their wedding, the couple had a sweet and happy life for a while. However, the youthful couple began to drift apart due to the busy schedules in their lives and the never ending worries of daily problems. Their life became mundane. All the challenges posed by the harsh realities of life began to gnaw away their dreams and love for each other. The couple began to have more quarrels and each quarrel became more heated.

One day, after a particularly heated quarrel, the girl ran out of the house.

At the opposite side of the road, she shouted, "You don't love me!"

The boy hated her childishness and out of impulse retorted, "Maybe, it was a mistake for us to be together! You were never my missing rib!"

Suddenly, she turned quiet and stood there for a long while. He regretted what he said but the words spoken are like water that was thrown away, you can never take it back. With tears, she went home to pack her things and was determined to breakup.

Before she left the house she said, "If I'm really not your missing rib, please let me go."

She continued, "It is less painful this way. Let us go on our separate ways and search for our own partners."

Five years went by...

He never remarried but he had tried to find out about her life indirectly. She had left the country for a while but retuned eventually. She had married a foreigner and that relationship ended with a divorce. He felt anguished that she never waited for him.

In the dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette and felt the lingering ache in his heart. He couldn't bring himself to admit that he was missing her.

One day, they finally met each other by chance at the airport, a place where there were many reunions and goodbyes. He was going away on a business trip. She was standing there alone. They were separated by the security door She smiled at him gently.

Boy: How are you?

Girl: I'm fine. How about you? Have you found your missing rib?

Boy: No.

Girl: I'll be flying to New York in the next flight.

Boy: I'll be back in 2 weeks time. Give me a call when you are back. You know my number. Nothing has changed.

With a smile, she turned around and waved goodbye.

Goodbye...

One week later, he heard of her death. She had perished in New York in the event that shocked the world on September 11.

Once again on another dark and lonely night, he lit his cigarette. And like before, he felt the lingering ache in his heart. He finally knew. She was the missing rib that he had carelessly broken. Sometimes, people say things out of moments of fury. More often than not, the outcome could be disastrous and detrimental. We vent our frustrations 99% of the time at our loved ones. And even though we know that we ought to "Think twice and act wisely", it's often easier said than done. Many of the things which happened each day are beyond our control. Let us treasure every moment and everyone in our lives. Tomorrow may never come. Give and accept what you have today

Parenting Guild: Parent-Child Relationship

Not getting along with a parent can be very painful emotionally. Even after you have grown into a mature one and found your own life, there is always a part that feels haunted by the bad relationship you have with one or both of your parents. I really envy those kids whose parents are open-minded with the kind of generation we have right now. Some parents are old-fashioned one- strict and the ego is always there that they are the parents then they are the rules.



When one does not feel fully accepted, love, understood or respected by a parent, there is an emptiness living inside you and while you may be able to move on with your life and find happiness, it is always preferred to have a close and healthy bond with your parents. Unfortunately, that does not happened into mine. Maybe I was bound to have an old-fashioned parents at all. So how can you find peace when you don't get along with a parent?How can you save a kind of relationship if a parent is a close minded person?And still stands being a parent and you are just his/her child?


Well, before you react see first where the problem begun. Some starts when you were born. If you are not getting along with your parents, it may help you feel better knowing that it is not your fault since you were just an infant that time. If it start from an early age when you as a child have no responsibility and what so ever, then most likely parents were not fit or ready to be a parent. 


In general, a good and healthy relationship and being a parent is one that -

1. Accepts the responsibility to be a parent. Never complains, there are a lot of parents that keeps on complaining. We, kids should know that and observed that as well.


2. Has the financial means to support a family- Obviously, this is prerequisite. Never dream to have a family if you can't support them at all. This will lead to bad relationship if you are not sophisticated enough in supporting your family.


3.Be fair enough. Fair enough with you children. Never have a special attention towards your elder/youngest one than your other children.


4. Has parenting knowledge though no one is an expert in this kind of degree of raising children and is a never ending learning experience yet a parent can achieve this kind of education if he/she has the passion to become a parent, open-minded in all aspects and the humbleness of being a parent.


5. Has a physical, emotional, and mental balance to engage with their children.


All of these factors can make a difference in our world today and with our new generation. In having a better understanding of their children, they can create proper tactics to educate a child and guide them lovingly in smooth manner and not in a painful one.


Take note that it is no one's fault to have differences. A child and parents must have differences to some degree but children should know how to understand and parents should always know how to accept and handle these differences. Remember to do your best and that there is a side you are not responsible for. Consider all aspects- use your heart along with your intellectuality. Let your mind and heart go as one. In this way, you can understand your children and the same goes with your kids.


Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. It is the parents big role on how they will mold their children. They are the main factor in one's child growth.

To bring up a child in the way he should go, travel that way yourself once in a while. Your children need your presence more than your presents.If you must hold yourself up to your children as an object lesson, hold yourself up as a warning and not as an example. 


It is not only children who grow, parents do too. As much as you watch to see your children do with their lives, they are watching you as their parents on what you do with yours. You can't tell your children to reach for the sun. All you can do is reach for it, yourself.

The Uncovered Mind

Dreams are said that it is how your minds speaks, whether for work, family, health or relationships. The psychology of dream help sort out all the information and events that interprets what is really going on, enable to solve problems they say, to gain clarity and insight into a situation, issue, or person of what is the meaning of dreams and what they are trying to tell you.

Now, in the simple translation of dreams you need Who, What, Where, When and How. For example, who was in the dream, what activity were you or others engaged in, where were you, was it day or night and how did you feel? Take note how you felt when you woke up and what was your most dominant emotion. Oftentimes you forgot these things but something happens a couple of days or weeks later in the real world that triggers your memory and you end up remembering your dream. Take note of that experience that triggered you in remembering your dream because it may provide clues about the dream's significance.

REALIZATION
Are events in your life being revealed to you in your dreams?

Down through history, many events have been revealed in dreams. This is influence that dreams have over our life. They can shape and mold our future in all sort of ways, and by harnessing that power we end up changing our lives for the better or for worsed. 

In a dream, in a vision of the night, when deep sleep falleth upon men, in slumberings upon the bed then he openeth the ears of men and sealeth their instruction. That he may withdraw man from his purpose and hide pride from man.

JOB 33:15

It is in a similar way dream life and incidents may fall upon the mind. A woman may dream of receiving a letter, and see muddy water, or an arid landscape or even fall from a mountain top. Closely following, in walking life, she is astonished to receive a letter in about the same manner of her dream, but the muddy water and the arid landscape are missing. This is a mixed dream and is due to more than once cause. The first part is literal in its fulfilment, and belongs to the spiritual class the other part of the dream is subjective, and therefore allegorical in meaning of dreams. Together with the letter, it is forewarning of misfortune. 

As we can see, dreams have no title to such practical importance, but for that very reason its theoretical value as a typical information is all the greater, and the physician who cannot explain the origin of dream-images will strive in vain to understand the phobias and the obsessive and delusional ideas, or to influence them by therapeutic methods.

The subconscious memory may be the direct cause of certain mening of dreams. When the mind is centered on certain things, the sleeper goes over his life again and again in phantom fashion. He lives over the experiences of his daily life.

Very often the ego enlightens the sleeper of some material thing for his own benefit, which he may use advantageously in his walking state, but as he generally looks at the phenomena as a hallucination of the brain, he allows many a golden opportunity to slip through his fingers because the materialist's brain cannot grasp things of the spirit.

Dreams are answers to questions we haven't figured out how to ask. Some may say these are only thoughts you didn't have time to think about during the day. So how about dreams during the day?

Dreams are illustrations...from the book your soul is writing about you. It has power to poison someone. It is like an excursion into the limbo of things, a semi-deliverance from the human prison. There's a long, long trail a-winding into the land of dreams.

I have always been amazed at the way an ordinary observer lends so much more credence and attaches so much more importance to waking events than to those occurring in dreams...Man.. is above all the play thing of his memory. The best reason for having dreams is that in dreams no reasons are necessary. 

Therefore, we are not only less reasonable and less decent in our dreams..we are also more intelligent, wiser and capable of better judgement when we are asleep than when we are awake...

New Year

Welcome 2012- A blessed and peaceful year to everyone of us. New Year's Day is the closest thing to being the world's only truly global public holiday, often celebrated with fireworks at the stroke of midnight as the new year starts. January 1 on the Julian calendar currently corresponds to January 14 on the Gregorian calendar, and it is on that date that followers of some of the Eastern Orthodox churches celebrate the New Year.


If you're like most people, you've probably experienced the sudden burst of motivation that comes in early January, as holiday indulgences make their way to the waistline and New Year's resolutions force a new look at the figure we see in the mirror. "This is the year," so the resolution goes, "that I vow to lose ten pounds and keep it off." Other common variations include goals to get back to one's "true" weight, to fit into a size ten, etc.  And worthy resolutions they are. Sadly, New Year's resolutions are notoriously short-lived, if not completely forgotten by February or even on the next day- the day after January 1.

Many people look forward to the new year for a new start on old habits. A New Year's resolution is something that goes in one year and out the other. Few of you might agree with this or mostly believe in this. Never tell your resolution beforehand, or it's twice as onerous a duty.


Year's end is neither an end nor a beginning but a going on, with all the wisdom that experience can instill in us. New Year's eve is like every other night; there is no pause in the march of the universe, no breathless moment of silence among created things that the passage of another twelve months may be noted; and yet no man has quite the same thoughts this evening that come with the coming of darkness on other nights. But I always hope and believe that every man should be born again on the first day of January.  Start with a fresh page.  Take up one hole more in the buckle if necessary, or let down one, according to circumstances; but on the first of January let every man gird himself once more, with his face to the front, and take no interest in the things that were and are past.

Therefore, I may say that the only way to spend New Year- the next celebration is either quietly with friends or in a brothel. Otherwise when the evening ends and people pair off, someone is bound to be left in tears. It may be you or me- or people around you.


"Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right." - Oprah W. said...I agreed and said " We will open another book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's day."


Enjoy this year's journey!!!